I recently read this great blog post written by a lesbian mom of 3 boys. I regret I cannot find the link to put in here..she writes that while your daughters may give you on occasion the silent treatment/cold shoulder/bad mood swings etc (take your pick) your son will always just love you.
I am a mother to a 7 year old boy and 2.5 year old girl and I totally agree! My Jonathan has a simple and loving heart! Not a day goes by in which he does not tell me more than once quite simple that he loves me. On every second day he will tall me that I am beautiful/pretty alternatively he will call me the "coolest mom ever!" (his words , I swear!). What an ego booster- and I have all in-house!
My boy has a heart of gold and I am the major beneficiary of his enormous capacity for love!
Jasmin, already at 2.5 may give me the shoulder if she does not want to do something, and at other occasions she mimics me scolding, but turns it around to scold me! Her latest rebuke is "savlanut!", which means patience in Hebrew. And so I am lectured on the virtues of waiting, for a 2.5 year old to finish whatever she is doing at that exact moment (climbing the sofa, watching TV, having a pretend phone call using a magnet...).
I know Jasmin loves me too. She runs to the door the minute I arrive from work and dashes forward full thrust to give my leg a grip hug! Even her older and physically bigger brother cannot beat her to the door, even if he tries (he sometimes tries if he can get away from the computer screen long enough to greet me upon my arrival).
Both children love their daddy too and Jasmin, ever daddy's girl, practically cannot fall asleep until she has ensured that daddy too has returned from work (my husband works in the evenings). Recently Jonathan has been voicing how important family members are to him, how much he loves us all. He even invented a song about it "Ich liebe Alle!" in German, a simple melody naming all his family members, grandparents and cousins included and the simple statement "I love all".
He has also been repeatedly telling me how important it is to him that we do things together, and protesting when this does not happen as often as he would like (I sometimes truly regret that both my husband and I work and have little time during the week...). Jonathan will simply revel at spending an afternoon with me, even if we spend it running errands. He just loves being together with mommy! A mother's life is just full of humor, ridiculous situations, surprises and if she is lucky to have a son, then also lots and lots and lots of cuddling, hugs, kisses and simple plain love! Yes indeed, boys will simply love you! Always!
Showing posts with label communication with your child. Show all posts
Showing posts with label communication with your child. Show all posts
Monday, October 27, 2014
Tuesday, March 4, 2014
Non Stop Talking
Jonathan likes to tell me everything! I am very happy this is so, however this usually means that I have to listen to a narrative that is never ending regarding all his favorite television shows, smartphone apps and fantasy games.
It is unfortunate that Jonathan cannot express himself clearly. His narrative is cut and confused. He delivers a lot of information with motion and sound and not with words. If I did not happen to have seen the program he is telling me about, it will be very difficult to understand what he is talking about. Jonathan makes up for his lack of communication abilities with enthusiasm and tenaciousness and duration - he simply goes on and on! Prattling along about the latest TV show on Nickelodeon or on you tube. Telling me about each phase he has managed to conquer and what stage his friends have managed to get through in a favorite computer game. My mother told me recently with great pride, that she was actually able to get Jonathan to tell her about a TV show and that by asking targeted questions, she managed to get a complete narrative from him and that she understood what he was talking about, although she naturally did not see the show!
Jonathan loves to talk to me about everything and anything. If he thinks he did something wrong, he will ask me not to be angry before sharing his information with me. sometimes he tried to lie to me, but he is not very good and I see though it immediately. It takes very little probing on my side to get the truth, and most of the times Jonathan regrets having lied, and he comes out immediately after lying with the true story, first declaring "oh, very ell, I will tell you the truth...". In such cases I always commend him on the truth and try to make him understand that it is important the he tell me everything that is on his mind.
Experts say that parents should take the time to listen to their children. that a conversation taking place in the car, when mommy is driving and child in in the back seat does not count. Experts say that modern parents tend to cut the children short and to manage them all too much. I notice that sometimes this is true of my dealings with Jonathan, and I try to improve and take the time to listen to what he has to say. Fining time is not easy. as a working mother I have very little time and two children demanding my attention. In the evenings, there is much to be done (eat, bath, sleep) and logistics to be taken care of (washing, home organisation and various errands). even so, I try to make the best of the time that I do have and to give each of my children some quality time alone with me. I truly hope I can maintain the good communication channels between Jonathan and myself, even though it is sometimes exhausting to try and follow what he is telling me...but even this, I hope will improve in time...
It is unfortunate that Jonathan cannot express himself clearly. His narrative is cut and confused. He delivers a lot of information with motion and sound and not with words. If I did not happen to have seen the program he is telling me about, it will be very difficult to understand what he is talking about. Jonathan makes up for his lack of communication abilities with enthusiasm and tenaciousness and duration - he simply goes on and on! Prattling along about the latest TV show on Nickelodeon or on you tube. Telling me about each phase he has managed to conquer and what stage his friends have managed to get through in a favorite computer game. My mother told me recently with great pride, that she was actually able to get Jonathan to tell her about a TV show and that by asking targeted questions, she managed to get a complete narrative from him and that she understood what he was talking about, although she naturally did not see the show!
Jonathan loves to talk to me about everything and anything. If he thinks he did something wrong, he will ask me not to be angry before sharing his information with me. sometimes he tried to lie to me, but he is not very good and I see though it immediately. It takes very little probing on my side to get the truth, and most of the times Jonathan regrets having lied, and he comes out immediately after lying with the true story, first declaring "oh, very ell, I will tell you the truth...". In such cases I always commend him on the truth and try to make him understand that it is important the he tell me everything that is on his mind.
Experts say that parents should take the time to listen to their children. that a conversation taking place in the car, when mommy is driving and child in in the back seat does not count. Experts say that modern parents tend to cut the children short and to manage them all too much. I notice that sometimes this is true of my dealings with Jonathan, and I try to improve and take the time to listen to what he has to say. Fining time is not easy. as a working mother I have very little time and two children demanding my attention. In the evenings, there is much to be done (eat, bath, sleep) and logistics to be taken care of (washing, home organisation and various errands). even so, I try to make the best of the time that I do have and to give each of my children some quality time alone with me. I truly hope I can maintain the good communication channels between Jonathan and myself, even though it is sometimes exhausting to try and follow what he is telling me...but even this, I hope will improve in time...
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